Love, the main source of happiness, is love for family, friends or pets, and all that can make up your “loved ones”, but that sphere could not be complete without “your other half” that wonderful person who it makes you feel butterflies in your stomach, or it makes you lose track of time, but how can you be sure that your other half is that person you are dating now? Or the kind of person you want to date? Or is it just a sudden crush that you have now? Well, there are many reasons to know if you are falling in love, and maybe you really are falling in love with someone and you still don’t know!
Now let’s start at the beginning, do you even date someone? Do you even like someone Maybe you saw a woman (or a man) who lives nearby and BAM !, love at first sight, but is there love at first sight?
1. Love At First Sight IF IT EXISTS!
Maybe you are in a bar, or jogging or maybe having a walk in the park and you saw someone and you thought: I think I have fallen in love, well let me tell you something, if you are a man, you may be right, but if you are a woman you can arrive to be a little more complicated than that.
Anthropologist Helen Fisher (she will be named a lot in this article) suggested that when women fall in love, they secrete dopamine and parts of the brain linked to memory are activated, which can take a little longer to fall in love, because they need a greater interaction with the other person, while men activate areas of the brain that respond to visual stimulation, for them the physical appearance unleashes the secretion of dopamine and that is why they fall in love faster than women.
You may be interested in taking into consideration the evolutionary theory that explains that men look for a good procreative capacity in a person, in order to have healthy offspring and that genetic information is passed on to the next generation as explained by Brenda Eskenazi, the director of children ´s environmental health research of the school of public health in the University of California, Berkeley.
2. You Cannot Imagine Your Life Without The Other Person
Let’s go a little further and say that in fact if you have a partner in your life, you have dated this person for a while and everything is going great …… but you have your own goals to achieve, maybe a better job, a promotion, living in another city, one of the signs that you are in love is when you want to achieve those goals, but with your partner by your side, that every aspect of your life is complemented by your boyfriend / girlfriend, progress together, not being able to imagine going on with your life without each other, and then some cases.
- If you can’t think of a new chapter in your life, a new home or job without thinking about your other half
- If you are thinking of having children but it does not cross your mind that it is with another person besides your partner
- If you can’t imagine what it would be like to grow old without your partner.
3. You Value Your Partner’s Opinion
If you are really in love, then you do not consider your partner as a perfect object that needs to be praised, but a human being with a different perspective and a unique opinion of his own, if you really value their opinion and you really care what they you say or think and respect that, or if you take their opinions into consideration when making a decision, or if you value their advice or their opinion on art, politics, music or any subject, just take their thoughts into account and that you actually care, You may be falling in love
4. Love Is Blind
Now, we already proved that love at first sight exists, but did you know that love is in fact blind? It does not make any sense, I know, but love never makes sense anyway! It is because norepinephrine and dopamine work in those areas of the brain associated with the analysis of the information that is received from the outside, mostly visual and auditory information, and when the visual is distorted the auditory increases, but if you don’t believe me, then maybe you believe the British A. Bartels and S. Zeki who already proved that the brain areas associated with negative emotions are reduced when you are in love and that pleasure centers make you forget negative things.
5. You Become Obsessive
At the beginning of the relationship or even before starting something with someone, maybe, you have felt your behavior a little more …… as a stalker, it’s a joke, you are not a stalker (I hope) but you feel the need to check the networks social, look for photos, “give likes” or “retweets”, and try to interact as much as possible with him / her. Surely you wonder why you do that so often, well, Donatella Marazziti, a professor of psychiatry and the director of the psychopharmacology laboratory at the University of Pisa, discovered that the brains of people who are in a new relationship produce a lower amount of serotonin, a substance responsible for keeping our mood balanced, so don’t worry if you feel a bit like a bully on social media, it happens to most, just try not to overdo it.
6. Mood Swings
Just like reason number 5, you may experience some “irrational mood swings” when you are in love. Why? Well, because of serotonin, as explained above, its job is supposed to keep our mood balanced, and it doesn’t always do a good job, and for better or worse, love is one of the most addictive substances to which we Humans are exposed, these mood swings range from anxiety, panic and despair, but hey, not everything is bad because you can also experience an increase in energy or even euphoria.
7. You Acknowledge And Accept The Failures Of Other People
Nobody is perfect and everyone knows that very well, and in a relationship sometimes you will notice that your partner is not as perfect as you thought, if you manage to overcome those failures and accept your boyfriend / girlfriend even with his biggest mistakes and be able to talking about it and trying to improve together then is one of the signs that you are falling in love, tolerance, understanding and respect are good and necessary ingredients in a relationship.
8. You Love To Do Things For Your Partner
Love is about giving and receiving, and if you are in love then you should enjoy giving and feeling happy when doing things for your loved one, maybe cooking for them, or taking your partner where they need, collaborating and helping when necessary and also that they thank you For this reason and that it feels good for you to do so, not because they asked you, but because it is a pleasure for you to help and contribute. Because you love him / her!
9. If It Makes You Laugh
Love doesn’t have to be super serious all the time, and neither of you have to be a comedian, but it is very important to enjoy a good sense of humor, and doing it together is a sign that there is a lot of trust and comfort and great A sign of love is when your other half makes you laugh effortlessly, maybe you’re not having a good day and he / she says something and BAM! Everything doesn’t look so gray anymore, it takes a very special person to do that, if you’ve already been through that or something similar, then you may have found love.
10. You Enjoy The Little Things
Not all relationships are like in the movies or on TV, of course riding up to your partner to bring her flowers and go together towards the sunset sounds very romantic (and somewhat old-fashioned) but even watching your partner’s favorite TV series, or shopping The taste of ice cream that you love and that you enjoy it is a sign of love, just doing it because your partner likes it and that you are able to enjoy it shows that you really care and that is a sign that you are falling in love, nothing how to pamper your partner with the smallest details.
11. You Have Been Through Difficulties Together
Love is not a bed of roses, but if you are truly in love, the good days far outweigh the bad ones, and you should stay strong even in the most adverse circumstances, from losing your job to the death of a family member, the moments really bad are those who put the relationship to the test, and if they have gone through these moments victoriously then you can say that you are in love. Why? Because they have had the strength to make things work even when there is no light at the end of the tunnel, they have worked as a team and have come out as champions of the dark.
12. You Walk Slower
You may never have noticed this (like any normal person) but according to a study conducted at Seattle Pacific University, men tend to slow down when walking to match the speed of the person they like the most, because it is based on A protective instinct, ladies, if you notice this, then believe me that you are being taken care of, or that perhaps the boy you are in love with is also in love with you, and cares (even if unconsciously) about your health and well-being.
13. The Changes
According to Helen Fisher (yes, the one we mentioned above), men who are in love are the ones who are more likely to change their gestures, style, habits and even their values to show more interest in their partner and appear more pleasant. not crazy? But these changes may not last forever, it is mostly observed at the beginning of relationships, those who have been for a longer time tend to relax a little more and accept the way their partner is, even with that shirt that you hate or even when it takes a thousand hours. to be ready.
14. Passed The Trial Period
Now, you might wonder what the heck is the trial period? You see, scientists at the University of Pisa determined that the massive chemical reaction in our brain that we call love doesn’t last forever, something sad isn’t it? They determined that the life span of love is 2 to 4 years, after that period all chemical changes become normal for the brain.
At this point you must be somewhat confused, since you have probably heard of an old couple with 50 or 60 years together that still love each other, well, it is precisely because they passed the trial period, they do not need the chemical impulse, they have learned to care , to trust to live and love, so if you ever manage to go through that period what you feel then is the purest form of love.
15. Your Wish Changes
After the trial period ends, you may come to experience that your sexual desire or that of your partner changes irrationally.According to Dietrich Klausmann, a sexologist at the University of Hamburg, sexual desire in women is decreased after that the trial period ends, but that of the man is another story, since this never changes, so if you do not have that desire with your partner that you had before it is a sign that you may be feeling something deeper and more significant like Dr. Fisher tested in one of his studies where he showed that 64% of people reject that sex is the most important thing in their lives.
The big green monster, is one of the greatest enemies and one that we should all fear, it is the cause of ruin and pain, and for most young relationships it is extremely dangerous, it can show itself in different ways, but when you’re in love there’s nothing that green monster can do to hurt you Why? Because there is trust, you do not have the fear that your partner is going to leave you, or that you feel inferior because of having lower income, because what you feel goes beyond material things or personal growth, it is about a bond, one it gets stronger over time.
17. The Social Sphere
Something essential for every couple, and it is something that comes eventually, the social sphere, the friends and family of your partner are something very important, not only because they are the closest people in the life of your other half but also because it is a A sign that they trust you, and that they want you to be part of their social life, meeting the family shows that your other half is not ashamed of you and that they proudly want to introduce you to the most important people in their world, just like with friends who are your closest trusted sources and that is something that happens when you are in love.
18. The Comfort Zone
One of the signs is that you are willing to get out of your comfort zone for your partner, try new things that may not inspire you much confidence or even terrify you, it is not like you have to walk on broken glass or be totally ashamed, but Maybe go to the gym for a few days with your partner or some outdoor activity that you like, maybe travel or visit distant friends and family.
19. Be Able To Give In
Sometimes things cannot be done your way, and you should understand this, being in love sometimes means that you have to give in to what your partner asks you or their ways of proceeding in any situation, and accept and understand that your partner also have a valid opinion and be happy that you can come to a decision together as a team.
20 Respect For Individuality
If you are really in love then you are not going to be a clone of your partner, of course you may have picked up a couple of new habits or expressions, but you should feel comfortable maintaining your sense of individuality while growing together as a couple, just as both of you should understand that each one has their space and they can do things separately, or maintain individual interests that the other may not like, as is the case with many couples with cigarettes or the habit of smoking, as well as spending some time for oneself.
21. Being Able To Express Yourself
If you are really in love then you will not have problems talking to your loved one about anything, that does not mean that you should point out every little thing that bothers you but it does mean that you feel comfortable enough when they talk about any topic even if it may become Annoying, in addition to being able to show your true feelings without feeling that you are annoying or boring, in a relationship there must be trust, if you feel that you can say everything that goes through your mind then you may be in love.
22. Getting Lost Talking
Do you know what one of the biggest signs that you are in love is? When you can talk about your partner about anything, seriously, even the most insignificant or ridiculous things, it is something that they can do for hours, not every talk should be about something deep or philosophical, because a great part of love is in the little things, and in one of Dr. Fisher’s studies it was determined that people who are in love never tire of the other person’s voice (paraphrasing a bit without all the technical words) and that men use a tone more serious and deep while women one higher, and something that is the super sample that they get lost talking is when they maybe chat on the phone or a facetime or Skype and laugh so much that they ask what were we talking about? THAT’S A SIGN
Very well, moving towards a more profound and serious topic, you know that you are in love when you feel comfortable …… .revealing your weaknesses, why? Because that way your partner can see the real you, the one behind the shield and inside the armor, even if it is not the most pleasant sight or your kindest side, if you are willing to open up about your past mistakes or talk about something that hurt or affected you in some way and you feel comfortable doing it, without fear, then you are in love, and it will be a relief for you to have shared that burden with your loved one.
24. You’re Not Afraid To Go Public
You are very much in love when you do not care at all who knows about your relationship, or the opinion of other people, about what they may say or think, it is a very mature step that every relationship eventually faces, but wow, it is great when you are happy to Yelling at the world that you’ve found love no matter what people may say, it just feels great.
25. You Have Eyes For One Person
It doesn’t matter if in the past you were a person with a very liberal sense of monogamy, or if you have a stormy past and many crazy exes, the only thing that matters is that when you love someone, you cannot imagine being with someone other than him / her, you made your choice, and nothing (and I really say nothing) is going to change that, not even your super sexy ex partner or the opinion of your family, love is not going to change.
I hope you have enjoyed these 25 reasons, maybe you have cleared your doubts or are a skeptic and do not believe in anything you read and it is even capable that you are scared to discover that if you are feeling love for someone, of course, that you fit in Some of the 25 reasons does not mean that you are 100% in love with someone, but maybe it is a beginning of something bigger, take it easy, if it is love it will be worth it, and it is not bad to say, we are falling in love.
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