There are thousands of memes that make fun of guys who have ended up in the dreaded friendzone. If you still don’t know what the term refers to, the Oxford dictionary defines it like this: “Situation of friendship between two people in which one of them feels a romantic or sexual attraction without being reciprocated.” Many men wonder why their “friend” does not want anything more with them despite considering them an excellent person. The reasons can be as many as the cases. However, here are the five most common reasons why she only wants you as a friend.
1. No chemistry
For there to be chemistry, attraction, or “inspiring bad thoughts,” it doesn’t matter if you’re a hottie or not. It arises almost immediately when a woman meets a man. It is a matter of skin, smells and particular tastes. But this energy needs to exist for a girl to want to go beyond friendship. There are cases in which it arises late, perhaps due to some situation that awakens it, but it is very rare. If there are no sparks from the beginning, you will immediately go to the friendzone.
2. Very intense or servile
Being attentive, detailed, supporting the other person and keeping them company will always work in your favor, but there are men who exaggerate. Calling her or writing to her every hour, tagging her in hundreds of memes, jealousy or showing up without warning at her house can scare her, tire her or make her seem desperate.
3. The physicist
Not everyone can be Henry Cavill, but if he doesn’t like anything about your physique, you have the upper hand. To see you “with different eyes” you have to appear attractive, handsome or, at least, that he likes some feature of you. Yes, it is something very superficial, but unfortunately, it is the reality. The good news is that we are all beautiful in the right eyes.
4. Bad technique
Most women like men who are confident and straightforward. If making her friend is a technique to make her fall in love, she will most likely realize it. If he is a bad person, you risk him taking advantage of you. It can also happen that they think you don’t have the courage to tell them. Letting her understand that you like her and wanting to meet her is good, but pretending to be friends to gain her trust is not. If you sow friendship, chances are that is what you will reap.
5. She really loves you as a friend
If you go a long time without showing your intentions, or if the attraction came a long time after meeting her, chances are that she really does love you as a friend. Many girls would rather keep that bond than venture into a relationship that could go wrong. That she values the bond that you currently have can be an impediment for her to dare to change it for a romance.